About Me

Lagos, Nigeria
I am Godfearing, focused, matured, Loyal and a VIRTUOUS YOUNG WOMAN.

Thursday, January 27, 2011

Past or Future....Trust God to mend everything

This is the very first time am gonna blog so i hope you all love my blogs and if you dont, u can still leave ur hate comments along with the good comments *smiling*. Its just random blogging...i doubt ild put my real name for you all but those who know me would know its me blogging......

Ok...enough of the messing around....Am goin to tell a little story about a little gal, a story i was told recently by a friend that touched my heart....

This little gal(who is now an adult) grew up in a broken home, was rapped by her 1st cousin(thats her father' older sister' son) who was staying with them(dnt ask me why cos i dnt know) constantly from age 3 till 6..to the little gal it was just an everyday occurence and she couldnt tell her mama or even her papa....Finally, this cousin goes off to university and she is free but she isnt free from the fights of her parents.

She gets into secondary school a few years later, has life going fine with flying colours but avoids having any fomr of relationship with men like its a plague....She was class captain from JSS 2 - SSS 3 and was even a prefect. She puts all her hurt into being a better person, comes out from secondary school with a result you would call excellent....

Gets admission into the higher institution and there life is very different from what it used to be. She felt exposed and this led to her being very unfriends, nasty & insultive to guys who approached her...She just couldnt imagine anyone touching her after the mental experience she went thru as a child.....But then like the devil wld always be, he sent a Prince charming to her...who inspite of her insults n behaviour was always coming back. He always had the right thing to say and would always wear a smile saying them....One day he gives her a ride to grab some snacks for herself and her friends....this young man suddenly diverts from the ordinary route to her surprise, she asks wats goin on and he replies "oh, i need to drop somethg off just down the road"...Then they get to the supposed place, asks her to come in and she says she wld wait in the car, so he quicky dashes and comes out again....but this time he went straight for her down and started to drag her out of the car and she is like "what are you doin that for?" from no where he dazes her across her face and drags her into his apratment. Striped her of her cloths and raps her over and over....she just laid there crying...she couldnt do anythg....all she felt was afterwards this is life.....he finished his business....even cleaned her up and dressed her back....and takes her home.....

She never saw the guy again but she was broken....she would cry herself to sleep almost every night....but she forgot somthg that there was someone(GOD) who was up above just waiting for her to call upon his name.

The reason why i was told this story was the young lady was asking her friends for advice...she still has recaps and sometimes withdraws from the world thinking of the problems she has experienced from child hood which now followed her to adult hood...she had many other relationships after the rape issue but for her they were all sex based(she felt love didnt exist)....She got a job and then finally she realised her life was not going in the right direction, she cries out to God to help her.

Today this lady is engaged to be married to a good man but she still has her fears, she cant trust him but she has feelings for him that she has never experienced(good ones she says) but the pains of the past are there....should she tell him????..what should she do????


  1. Hi dear, nice one wel i don't tink she has really called out 2 God or studied His word. Job lost his children,his property, he was struck with leprosy, he went through hell but knowing the God he served made him strong.

    We call ourselves Christians but most times forget the true ways of Christ. For instance her best bet was to fllw God. but still she had other relationships which were sexually based.Then at the end of d day she says "she cries out to God to help her". Which of the gods???

    If she really wants her marriage to last then she must tak it 2 God and equally the man she is about to marry.

    Also ensure u try n avoid short hands wen u re blogging, cos u want every one every were 2 read it also you can post your blogs @ www.blogcarnival.com after each blog.

  2. @Voke....Thanks alot dear for the advice.i would try and ensure i make corrections in my next blog.

  3. For her marriage to work she needs to tell her finance the truth for there to be trust.

  4. @Martha..Thats the truth...cos i believe that a relationship built or based on truth can never be destroyed....